meeting girls at a nightclub

surfer comments

>I was the second to last caller on your Cable Radio Network show (and regular >listener). I asked you what the success ratio is asking out strangers.
> When going to a nightclub, is it better to cultivate a lengthy conversation with one woman, or several short conversations with a number of women?
> Regards,
> John

My response
At a night club it is best to get a phone number and make a plan to go out. Then after you get one girls number, move to another girl because most numbers or dates will go nowhere.

Start a conversation with a girl, be funny, positive, and show interest if you have it. Don't fake interest, and don't ask questions just to make noise.

Anyways, if conversation is comfortable ask her what she does for socializing - how often does she go out, where usually, or what else does she do?
As she gives you examples, Look for things you have in common.
For example, she says "I play tennis on Tuesdays". Then if you play tennis too, tell the truth about it. For example (if this is the case), say, "I only play once a month or so, we should play sometime!" if she says yes, you have a connection.
Or maybe she says she likes Bar X, if you do too, you say "Me too! We should meet up there sometime." Again, see if you get a yes.
If so, then chat a bit more and then when the conversation is winding down, say "want me to call you sometime for tennis?" or "want me to call you to meet at Bar X?", then she says yes and you get the number.
Then move on to another girl. However, if it is a small bar or if your conversation is still great, don't rush to leave. Learn to go with the flow. And always read the body language!

Also, keep in mind that a definite plan made at Midnight drunk may not sound so good to the girl the next day . . . if you made a plan for the next couple days, then call to do that. If the plan was for in the future, call the next day just to say "nice meeting you, my number is xxx, will call for XYZ next week (or whatever)". If you call to make a plan and she doesn't call back, maybe try one more time and if still no call back, forget it!

Also, before calling, plan a good message because usually girls do not pick up the phone for a number they don't recognize. So you might as well be prepared to leave a message.

Good Luck!
Keep me posted!